第1章 懂自己，才能想未来 Get a Thorough Understanding of Oneself

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In all one's lifetime it is oneself that one spends the most time b eing with or dealing with.But it is precisely oneself that one has the least understanding of.

When you are going upwards in life you tend to overestimate yourself.It seems that everything you seek for is within your reach;luck and o pportunities will come your way and you are overjoyed that they constitu te part of your worth.When you are going downhill you tend to under-est imate yourself,mistaking difficulties and adversities for your own inco mpetence.It's likely that you think it wises for yourself to know your place and stay aloof from worldly success.In doing so you are actually wearing a mask of cowardice,behind which the flow of sap in your life w ill be retarded.

To get a thorough understanding of oneself is to gain a correct view of oneself and be a sober realist-aware of both one's strength and sho rtage.You may look forward hopefully to the future but be sure not to e xpect too much,for ideals can never be fully realized.You may be coura geous to meet challenges but it should be clear to you where to direct y our efforts.That's to say so long as you have a perfect knowledge of y ourself there won't be difficulties you can't overcome,nor obstacles you can't surmount.

To get a thorough understanding of oneself needs self-appreciation.Whether you liken yourself to a towering tree or a blade of grass,whet her you think you are a high mountain or a small stone,you represent a state of nature that has its own raison detars.If you earnestly admire yourself you'll have a real sense of self-appreciation,which will give you confide cell.As soon as you gain full confidence in yourself you'l l be enabled to fight and overcome any adversity.

To get a thorough understanding of oneself also requires doing onese lf a favor when it's needed.In time of anger,do yourself a favor by g iving vent to it in a quiet place so that you won't be hurt by its flam es;in time of sadness,do yourself a favor by sharing it with your frie nds so as to change a gloomy mood into a cheerful one;in time of tiredn ess,do yourself a favor by getting a good sleep or taking some tonic.S how yourself loving concern about your health and daily life.As you are aware,what a person physically has is but a human body that's vulnerab le when exposed to the elements.So if you fall ill,it's up to you to take a good care of yourself.Unless you know perfectly well when and ho w to do yourself a favor, you won't be confident and ready enough to r esist the attack of illness.

To get a thorough understanding of oneself is to get a full control of one's life.Then one will find one's life full of color and flavor.

在一个人的一生中，与自己相处和打交道最多的人就是自己，而最不了解自己的人恰恰也是自己。

人生得意时，我们常会高估自己。你所追求的好像都在触手可及的范围内。好运与机遇都出现在你的生命旅程中，你狂喜不已。它们成了你自身价值的一部分。人生失意时，我们常会低估自己，错将困难与不幸归为自己的无能。你认为明白自己的处境，与世无争才是明智之举。这样，你实际上是给自己蒙上了怯懦的面具，并在此后的生命流动中延缓。

彻底地了解自己，就是正确地认识自己，做一个冷静的现实主义者。也许，你在充满希望地期待未来，但是，一定不要期望值过高，因为理想或许永远不会彻底实现。也许，你能勇敢地去面对挑战，但是，你应当清楚自己努力的目标在哪里。也就是说，只要你对自己有了正确的认识，那么一切困难都可以克服，任何障碍都能逾越。

要透彻地了解自己，首先要懂得自我欣赏。无论你觉得自己是高耸入云的大树，还是弱不禁风的小草；不管你觉得自己是座高山，还是块石子，你都象征着自然界的一种状态，都有自己的价值。你若能真诚地欣赏自己，就能获得自信细胞，获得自我欣赏的真实判断力，一旦拥有充足的自信，你就能与任何不幸抗争。

要透彻地了解自己，也需要适当地关心自己。气愤时，在宁静的地方放松一下心情，以免被火气的锋芒烫伤；悲伤时，向朋友倾诉一下，让忧郁的心情欢快起来；疲倦时，美美地睡上一觉，或者给自己一些奖励。让自己明白，关心自己的身心健康与日常生活息息相关。同样也要明白，一个人所拥有的身体，不过是人的肉体，暴露着就容易受伤害。因此，如果生病了，照顾好自己完全取决于你自己，除非你很清楚地了解什么时候、怎样关爱自己，否则，你将没有信心与充足的准备去抵抗病魔的袭击。

透彻地了解自己，是对自己生命的完全掌控。如此，你会发现生命中充满了色彩和芬芳。

I am a slow walker,but I never walk backwards.

--Abraham Lincoln

我走得很慢，但是我从来不会后退。

——亚伯拉罕·林肯

overestimate [,uv'estimeit] v.评价过高；出价过高

I overestimated the amount of milk we'd need for the weekend.

我过高估计了我们周末的用奶量。

adversity [d'v:siti] n.不幸；灾难

The fire is the test of gold;adversity of strong men.

烈火炼真金，逆境炼壮士。

retarded [ri't:did] adj.智力迟钝的；发展迟缓的

The injury to his head seems to have retarded his thought process.

头部受伤似乎妨碍了他的正常思考。

surmount [s:'maunt] v.克服；越过

To surmount and promote people's life quality constantly is people's pursuit.

不断超越与提升人的生命质量是人之生命永恒的追求。

彻底地了解自己，就是正确地认识自己，做一个冷静的现实主义者。

只要你对自己有了正确的认识，那么一切困难都可以克服，任何障碍都能逾越。

透彻地了解自己，是对自己生命的完全掌控。如此，你会发现生命中充满了色彩和芬芳。

It seems that everything you seek for is within your reach;luck and opportunities will come your way and you are overjoyed that they constit ute part of your worth.

seek for：寻觅；寻找

In time of anger,do yourself a favor by giving vent to it in a quie t place so that you won't be hurt by its flames.

give vent to：表达；发泄（感情等）